Friday, June 26, 2015

Why Love Should Come After Marriage

Posted by: Praveen Kumar

Relationship experts opine that the best way to enjoy marital bliss is to marry someone first and then fall in love with that person after marriage. Well, today there are so many couples who date just to break up soon after for the slightest reasons.

May be this is the reason why experts suggest to marry first and love later. Well, when you are dating someone, you would naturally try to see reasons for not committing to that person because you are not tied down yet.

But marriage is a committed relationship. So, you would naturally try to see more reasons to stay with the person unless you really hate that person. Maybe, that is the reason why some find falling in love after marriage a better option. So, there are some advantages of arranged marriage too.

Also, in the dating world, you tend to have so many choices. This would make you a bit confused about what you really want in your partner.

Why Falling In Love After Marriage Is Better

Commitment Is More Important In Marriage

In dating, romance comes first. But in marriage, commitment comes first. It is a fact that relationships last longer due to commitment and not romance.

Marriage Considers Many Factors

When the marriage is an arranged one, many factors are considered by both the parties. In dating, romance dominates the relationship. In such cases, a person tends to get carried away by the emotions. The chances of a relationship going wrong would be more when you are emotional.

Stability Plays A Role

We marry to gain some stability and also to start a family. When stability is ensured, romance can gradually enter the picture to make the bond more beautiful. When we are young, we tend to think that romance is the only important thing to consider but stability is a factor that influences the shelf life of a relationship.

Loving Your Spouse Is Easier

As you tend to stay with your spouse under the same roof, the chances to get intimate would surely increase. This makes it easier to fall in love with your partner after marriage.

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Thursday, June 04, 2015

శ్రీ కౌముది జూన్ 2015

Monday, June 01, 2015

8 Fascinating Wedding Traditions Around the World

Katie Waldeck
May 31, 2015
What event typifies a culture better than a wedding? Read on for some of the most unique wedding traditions across the globe. Do you have a great wedding tradition in your family or culture? Let us know about it in the comments!

1. Kenya: Spitting on the Bride
The Maasai people of Kenya have what is perhaps one of the most unique matrimonial customs on the planet: the father of the bride actually spits on the bride’s head and breasts after the ceremony! And it’s not just in wedding ceremonies, either—in Maasai culture, spitting is a way to show respect to others.

2. Lebanon: Late Nights
In much of the world, it’s customary for the newlyweds leave the ceremony before many of the guests. That’s not the case in Lebanon, however; in this Middle Eastern nation, it’s customary for the happy couple to stay until every single guest has left.

3. South Korea: Wedding Ducks
Many Korean couples receive carved mandarin ducks as a wedding gift. It’s believed that mandarin ducks mate with their partners for life, and that ducks symbolize peace and fertility.

Though far less common in modern ceremonies than it once was, traditionally, the duck carvings actually have a place in the ceremony. Before it starts, the ducks, minus the necks, are wrapped in cloth and carried into the ceremony. The bride then puts the wrapped ducks on the table when she enters, and, after the ceremony, the mother of the groom throws the ducks at the bride. If she catches it, she’ll have a boy; if she doesn’t, a girl.

4. India: Stealing Shoes
Known as Joota Chupai, or, quite literally, “stealing shoes,” this Indian wedding tradition involves the eldest unmarried woman from the bride’s side of the family stealing the shoes of the groom. At the start of the ceremony, the groom removes his shoes when he enters the mandap (similar to a western wedding altar) and the young women of the bride’s family find a clever place to hide them. The groom then offers a “ransom” of some sort, often pocket money, to get them back. It’s a fun tradition that’s meant to symbolize the uniting of two families.

5. Germany: Log Cutting
In Germany, the bride and groom saw a log in half immediately after the ceremony. Known as baumstamm sägen, the log sawing is symbolic of the first major hurdle the two face as a couple.

6. Greece: Crowns
Crowns are a mainstay of a traditional Greek Orthodox wedding ceremony. These crowns, tied together by ribbon, represent the union of two families, two souls and the creation of a new kingdom. During the ceremony, the priest switches the crowns back and forth between the bride and groom and, wearing the crown, the bride and groom follow the priest around the altar 3 times. The removal of the crowns represents the end of the ceremony.


7. Romania: Kidnapping the Bride.
In Romania and many other Eastern European countries, the bride can expect to be kidnapped by the family of the groom. It’s all in good fun, though: a little bit of alcohol or a song, or even a little money is enough to meet the “ransom” demand.

8. African Americans: Jumping the Broom
A popular ritual for African American couples, jumping the broom almost certainly has its roots in traditional African tribal weddings, particularly in Ghana. It’s a way to honor your heritage and join two families. After African Americans were legally able to marry, the practice of jumping the broom went out of favor. It didn’t gain popularity until the landmark television miniseries “Roots” depicted it. You can read more about the fascinating and heartbreaking history of jumping thebroom here.

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